Yeah, I get that. I jut...maybe I wan to give people the benefit of doubt or maybe I think it could be spelled out in the com guidelines?

trust me i'm as second wave a they come, but I feel weird privileging one trajectory over others, as if a homophobic or racist comment were any less offensive or upsetting...

I'm fascinated by the Elementary vs sherlock. I think what it boils down for me is that I love E. but I don't want the type of stories I want in S. (like I read a genderswapped Sherlock AU this morning which had F!John pregnant and it was a great story, except for one moment where sherlock totally derided John and made her his errand boy and...in a m/m relation it doesn't bother me all that much and yet with John being female I kinda recoiled...if that makes sense...I love the close friendship thing in m/f because we see it so much less in mainstream media)